Thavone Huinil-Phommavongsa, LMSW, CAADC, CIRT

Are you tired of having the same arguments, feeling misunderstood, or wondering why the person you love most can also be the one who hurts you the deepest?

Perhaps communication has broken down. Maybe one of you pursues while the other shuts down. You may feel alone in the relationship, exhausted from trying to fix things, carrying resentment, or longing for the closeness and connection you once shared. Maybe trust has been broken, intimacy has changed, or small disagreements quickly become painful battles.

You don’t have to keep having the same arguments and feeling stuck in the same painful patterns. Things can get better.

Through Imago Relationship Therapy, I help couples move beyond blame, reactivity, and repeating patterns so they can better understand what is happening beneath the conflict. Together, we explore the hurts, fears, protective patterns, and unmet needs that often drive painful interactions. You will learn practical ways to communicate, listen, repair, and reconnect, without losing yourself in the process.

I am also trained in Internal Family Systems (IFS), Brainspotting, and Hypnotherapy. These approaches allow me to support individuals and couples in going beyond surface-level communication and exploring the deeper experiences, emotional wounds, protective responses, and patterns that may be affecting the relationship. By integrating these approaches, we can work with both the relationship dynamics happening between you and what may be happening within you.

My approach is empathic, supportive, and clear. I believe in creating a space where both partners feel heard and respected while also tenderly challenging the patterns that are keeping you stuck. I bring compassion and mutual responsibility to help you look honestly at what is happening and support you in creating meaningful, lasting change.

Imagine feeling more understood by your partner. Imagine being able to talk about difficult subjects without the conversation turning into another argument. Imagine feeling emotionally safer, more connected, appreciated, and hopeful. Imagine moving from walking on eggshells, shutting down, or constantly defending yourself to feeling like you are truly on the same team.

You both deserve a relationship that feels safe, connected, and fulfilling; one where you have the tools and support to work through life’s challenges together.

Relationships can hurt, and they can also become a place of healing and happiness. Let’s focus on co-creating being relational.